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Especially if I have to pay child support. Basically I feel like he will always have a foothold in my life, because of my son, I feel he planned this entire situation strategically, and I feel so lost, alone, and empty that Im deeply afraid that he will use my son to destroy me forever. He worked as a fraud investigator and told me he had to go undercover with NICB and we had to get a divorce but it wasnt real. How to win a child custody case from a Narcissist? I broke up with my ex narc in march after 16 years and 3 children. Contact him via email chamberc564@yahoo.com (1) want your ex back. The tenants will quietly say so glad you are back . I stop the car and say. ending 6 years with NPD Amazing the red flags I ignored and scenarios in here that I didnt even realize was a red flag, but are described as perfectly as if you had been living here with us. Im Mentally & physically broken down. Theres a BIG difference between a narcissistic ex and a regular exthe difference starts at the very beginning of the relationship.. And trust me its like gastro, if you dont know if youve had it, you havent. He would come home and just go to bed without talking to me and after a week of me feeling infuriated, invalidated, weak, angry, sad, lonely, to the point I couldnt take it anymore. Narcs supporting and colluding with narcs. But most of us who have lived with a N for a long time, whether we are still engaged of recovered, dont need to focus on how the N feels. I could not pay for a private investigator so i decided to confront her myself and ask her about the messages on her computer and like instantly she came out clean but i wished i never asked her because it was like she needed me to see those messages in the first place. Personality traits are missing. I wont let him so he takes a soda and smashes it in Side my car and starts hitting me. I hear nothing again. It was a horrible split-up.I ignored him, totally..but he wouldnt stop..and still continues to this day.I should have known something was way wrong with him in the very beginning, he always spoke of how he was getting DSS to investigate some old GF..always hurting someone, because they had to levae his abusive ass! I literally just yesterday left a 15 year narcist relationship. I went through a situation this time last year where my ex narc seperated me and our child by using my reaction to his abuse. He was always watching p**n when not at work or when interacting with family and friends. I know I am being very insensitive with my comments but what this woman needs is a wake up call. that was enough to see something was not quite right. My boyfriend left me for another girl. Now, hell have it back and he can leave me alone. After 20 years of marriage to an N, I have been emotionally exhausted. Anyway, so that night, we were hanging out, I remember most things quite clearly, but we went into my bedroom, and were kissing. A show of power is designed to force you into a position of subservience you will ask for forgiveness, heap praise upon them, and provide a source of supply. As soon as I was hooked and was on his way regarding pornography, prostitution, online dating and his womanizing ways he was verbally and physically abusive. So glad I did, things went quiet from him over the weekend. So maybe. I refused. And they still waby you to live with them? Three months this time and not going back. After reading a lot of materials on NPDs Im just afraid she will never change. What I want to know is if anyone has any knowledge of NPDs who get to realisation and how that could possibly impact their behaviour and lives? What intrigued me or got my attention about your post is the fact that you mentioned Pornography! Im new, and alone. But he says no. The disorder, no contact, influence on children, your healing, court etc etc. He fed off my reaction to the things he would say to me, he thrived for my responses or me arguing back with him, etc. I fell head over heels for him. Unfortunately for him, I threw him out of my apartment, changed my phone number, and moved back to where I lived before I met him. Then he had the nerve to excuse himself to make a phone call, comes back 15 minutes later and when I asked if it were her he called he said yes, she had called him and he was returning the call on Valentines Day! Daughter was livid! Long distance relationship, we went on holiday and on the 3rd day found out he was hiding a serious STD from me!! Also I think that in his mind, not contacting me proves that he is better than my other exes, who had to be silenced. until he came to my house and went on his knees pleading to me that i should forgive him, so that was how we got united again with the help of great DR MAXI OWOLABI, and now we are happily married, thanks be onto Dr MAXI OWOLABI for what he has done for me, if you need his help you can contact him through owolabilovespell@hotmail.com o his phone number which is +2347059144152 and you will definitely testify of his great help and powers. He left one confused email. After someone breaks up with narcissist, the narcissist is in agony. I cant help but see the comparisons to my wife jodi in alot of these testimonials, Shes actually to the point of putting up Facebook post claiming I was the narcissist in the relationship, although I was the one trying to stay together, she always used every plea as a new reason for another attack on my character or me as a man, and I could never understand why as my wife she would always bring up past relationships she had been in, the mental torcher alone was physically debilitating. 5 days later, she messages me and says send me a dirty pic of yourself. I was with a Narcissist who had several addictions..We dated few weeks, lived together almot 3 months..He became more physically abusive after I broke up and tried to avoid him..I felt stalked by him through his lies and he turned others against me, he harassed me with text,voicemail and emails.Had to block him and many people knows on a social network..I found out later, I was not the only woman he did this to. I had been dating (not sleeping with) several guys, just playing the field. Some break up after a short fling of two to three weeks. Looked a bit older. They say you're too fat or too needy or too happy. Commentdocument.getElementById("comment").setAttribute( "id", "ab52140f0c1adac64353b7cf0b7a2d33" );document.getElementById("i2dc42b6e0").setAttribute( "id", "comment" ); Alexander Burgemeester has a Master in Neuropsychology. He never did. Other research has also shown that they perceive their current partners positively, so it seems that these positive perceptions don't fade after the relationship is over. His retribution most likely be as well. You're unappreciative of all they have done for you. Seek legal consultation, or do research on this custody hearings, so you are prepared. This is how you treat my gifts ! Hurting people for attention and gratification. I know one things for sure! He kept on putting the blame on me. This is especially true if they can make it look like theyre taking you back, doing you a favor. Save. He got worse in crossing every boundary I had including name calling, screaming, threatening to leave when he would come back after DAYS of not answering texts ( I felt crazy, I would text over and over demanding an answer. Good luck for the woman he is living with now. The neighbour immediately notified the property owner of my situation and he in turn contacted my landlord & landlady. I believed and gave him the information needed and in three days my husband came back to me. He is a bit put off by women. Them against good loving ppl.It has no conscience making it a psychopath. Their shame complex. Sometimes the silent treatment never ends. And when you try to bring up real issues that need to be addressed, the topic will be shifted back to you and your "poor qualities.". Abandoning her means abandoning my sons as well which I know is not true. hi I read your experience and Im so sorry to hear this. How to leave a Narcissistic Relationship? The other, had come over tripping out. I should have RAN. As in, right at this moment this is me and what I AM going through RIGHT NOW! His mother called a week later claiming he was going to add the baby to his insurance at work. And try not to fear anything I know thats nearly impossible though. Ive never ever had to deal with this type of deception backstabbing drama in my life and since he dumped me, maybe hell back off now. i also come across one particular testimony,it was about a woman called Sonia,she testified about how he brought back her Ex lover in less than 7 days, and at the end of her testimony she dropped High Priest OLORUN s e-mail address. "I bought my own homeall by my damn self! They are psychopaths. Initially he wasnt my type, however he was quite persistent. Shes going to have a nice ass and lips. This was quite disturbing to me and I confronted him. Aka Cooper. If a Narcs hoovering is sure no compliment (in fact the opposite is true) though I understand where you are coming from and why you are hurt. They of course, believed their dad as he was very convincing to them and of course as you know kids are impressionable. He even started spreading these same lies to our neighbors. Its much worse than what I have said. I just got over my narcissist. I sure would love to know either way. Yes! Time heals all wounds and helps you to forget the pain the narcissist caused. Well I forgive him. get yourself therapy join groups or talk about the abuse to trusted people or supports libe to let steam out. And I said yes he flew back which I payed for and we started to live together. I could never get a job, for each job I had he showed up to work and in one way or another got me fired.. or I had to quit.. You are smart to see people in your lives hanging on to these relationships, and not fall for it. He was engaged when we met & I had no idea. counseling will not work.. because he will make excuses but then he will find another way to con you and the people around you. Should You Block the Narcissist on Facebook? So. Only recently discovered what NPD is after having found out that I was raised by NPD mother. All of them are horrible, strangely very predicable once you begin to read about predators they follow distinct patterns of repeating & escalating abuse. But God has been my strength and my guide as well as my sanity. Forgive yourself. It hurt me and I found comfort in one of my best friend. He managed to make his family hate me, particularly his co dependent mother. I have a strong hate for him, I am so angry this man has put me in a terrible position I know he means me no well. She use to tell me she,hated me and cry to live with him while at the same time he was threatening to take her away from me. If you're married or have any joint belongings, experts recommend hiring a lawyer who has handled divorce cases involving narcissistic spouses. He completely withdrew and has done nothing to get back to me. This has saved me loads of pain, and probably my life. Not one poster took any responsibility or claimed they did anything wrong. Take the time to Know yourself, Value yourself, have CONFIDENCE in yourself. We get in a huge fight he punishes me in the face. Or not. They will make you pay for the pain theyve felt and the effort it took to get you back. Meet Cordae, How I Saved Grocery Money By Dating (Yes, Really), Miley & Liams Relationship Timeline Hit Me Like A Wrecking Ball, By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. I will heal and move on . Bites me and then leaves. Being a whore ? I already have one of those! And he became very angry. Well my friend texts me. good luckfrom what I read Ur an amazing mum get Ur son back xxx, HI THERE I WAS PRECISELY THROUGH THE SAME BUT HE FOUND A 48YR OLD SHE DOESNT WANT TO LEAVE ME ALONE SENDING ME MESSAGES ALL THE TIME THREATENING ME AND TELLING ME HOW BAD I AM SO BAD THAT I CANT TRUST PEOPLE DONT HAVE THE COURAGE FOR A NORMAL RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE OF HIS LIES AND DECEITFULL WAYS I AM TORN APART AND HOW DO ONE HEAL YOUR SOUL EVEN I FEEL GOD LEFT ME. He did a really good job of concealing his true-self in the beginning of our relationship and during our first year and a half of marriage. Then I hear nothing for weeks once again. No I need my keys so I ge them back Im covered in my own blood everywhere The cops come. Let her know that eventually she will get tired of living life the way she is living it. I am also an avid blogger with a keen interest in spirituality, astrology and self development. And I also remember being that guy when shortly after she started living with him she began to repeatedly hurt him and no matter how many times he asked her to stop and she promised him she would stopshe continued and eventually destroyed him.. I go to a friends house shes horrified. Im praying for u. Melanie Your story is my life. I think youre reading a bit too B&W into this. I said dont you see how totally disrespectful that is, how could you? The trip is perfect. Feel like I just stepped off a train wreck Just hoping & praying that he keeps his distance. If your no contact does succeed, youre not quite out of the woods. After two affairs I finally had the courage to kick him out 7 weeks ago. I am now healing from this monster and wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy. I told her I thought she was a narcissist after all of the behavior and reading it up online and talking to friends that are psych majors. I didnt want to see the truth. Sometimes you may find advice from people in the strangest of places. Either they won't let you go without a fight, or they will discard you without looking back. Is there any advice please feel free to share. He is a pathological liar and got me back by being sweet and helpful many times. Heres the kicker: why do men tend to move on to someone who you might consider beneath you? Sent one photo of himself crying. Thats not to say no contact is a bad idea though; if communication continued after you broke up with them, they would almost certainly lure you back in. 6. A week. Yeah! The story they spew during the breakup will probably be far from the truth as they attempt to save face. He is sitting behind me now at my daughters recital and I want to turn around and hit him but what I know is he is clueless. Hes trying to make me look irrational and insane in front of everyone. But i found out his game so now his the fool. I left the relationship five weeks ago when I cut him.out of my life it was what my soul needed. If you having similar problem, Contact him now (dr.gokosspiritualcaster @ gmail .com) or whats app him plus 2348056398964 and get your problem solve once and for all. I had not told my daughter that we broke up, she heard about if from my son who lives with her. I debated for a while but against my better judgement, I said I would when he was ready but that I wasnt going to wait the 9 years like the woman he was cheating on his wife with. See glimpses of the man I once loved but I have found me again and despite loneliness will never go back. Thats exactly almost where Im at. Im confusedwhat does it mean if he didnt exhibit ANY of the behaviors offered in this article? But since its been all about him. I contacted my family and removed my self and my children from the situation. The desperate attempts are him just trying to fill the void inside him again. Saying. mine broke up with me, but asked me to redesign her tramp stamp tattoo, and if she could still come by for sex since she was so aggressive she didnt attract any males at the moment. Apart from the fact I can no longer drive, what I find to be very depressing is it strongly appears a fair amount of the psychological damage is permanent. your life truly depends on itand if you have children please please get out so they can have a chance at a functional life you nor they may not see it now but just like I never thought I would I Thank GOD everytime I encounter that demonic empwhich is often. His indifference was crushing. She leaves me and comes back to again but what she feels in her heart is true but I have set this no expectation boundary to live on a safer side based on one Last text I sent her if two are meant to be together and if it is the whole universe is going to conspire to bring you together . Hear nothing for a month. Good that you see him for the pos that he is. Praying for you Tina! Now that you've gotten away from them, you need to shift that focus back to yourself, your own needs, and your own wants. I am so thankful to know that I dont understand because that would make me like him. After I was discharged on November 7th it was determined I could no longer safely operate a motor vehicle. Eight years not an interest at all in dating or meeting another man I was already strong independent and in control and anice person Than. He never went back (so he says; I guess he thought it was okay for him but not for the wife to cheat). And now this ?! Then when she hung up on his ass, he texted her for 30 minutes still blaming me for lying in these letters about having a STD, which I do not but I did go and get tested this week when I found out he is not who I thought he was, however, it will take two weeks to get the results. They'll say anything (no matter how far-fetched the lie) to get what they want. I have been away from him for 8 months and going strong ! You are right. stockfour / Shutterstock. The porn, the lies, text messages from women he met on these sites with nude pictures attached. He got off on making me suffer..He never gave me any help or breaks and eventually with the stress of caretaking a adult for twenty years with autism I was depleted . The feelings you would have in those situations are akin to how a narcissist feels when he loses someone. Hes currently using the Gas-lighting technique, trying to ruin my reputation. I wish I would wake up. I finally left him, and he simply went on holiday with his buddy. Lack of emotional empathy: This means that they do not feel your pain. If in fact that you by chance see this, would you please let me know if you, and I pray that you have, left and started anew? This random, seemingly innocent or innocuous attempt at communication is anything but it's a narcissist's way to try and elicit a response from you. When I would question him he would tell me that I was crazy and insane and thats why no one would ever want me. After two years, Ju was still living with her ex and while I made arrangements to move to her, she bought a house with her ex. Hi there Michelle! I told him no thank you get lost. ( there is a difference between these two disorders ). Hes totally ignored them and doesnt ever phone or see them. Whether it's dividing your assets or deciding on child custody and support arrangements, your ex will drag out the proceedings. At that time, she (lets call her Ju) was living with her current partner and I didnt think Ju was going to end her relationship. Sometimes we would argue and his favorite thing to do in an arguement was to walk out; sometimes he would come back that day, sometimes he would stay out for a 2-3 days. I said my piece a few days ago, about how it takes two and why I was upset. 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